Catholic Commute S02E17 How to let go of our plans

We cannot choose both our plans and God's at the same time

We all have plans; we all have things we want to accomplish.  This isn’t really a bad thing – God wants us to work and do things.  The problem comes up when sometimes our plan is different from God’s plan.  In those moments, it’s often hard to let go of our plans.  They seem so important, we’ve worked so hard!

In this episode, I discuss 4 ways to help let go of our plans.  It’s not easy, but with the right perspective we can let them go without too much pain.  Hopefully these will help you if you are in a spot where God has asked you to change directions.

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S02E17 How to let go of our plans


St. Jude. ‘The Saint for the Hopeless and the Despaired’ or ‘The Patron Saint of the Impossible or “patron saint of lost causes”. This practice stems from the belief that few Christians invoked him for misplaced fear of praying to Christ’s betrayer, Judas Iscariot.


May believe he is the Thaddeus that is referred to in Matthew and Mark, Thaddeus appears to be a nickname and they would want to differentiate him from Judas Iscariot.


Tradition holds that Saint Jude preached the Gospel in Judea, Samaria, Idumaea, Syria, Mesopotamia and Libya.[21] He is also said to have visited Beirut and Edessa, though the emissary of the latter mission is also identified as Thaddeus of Edessa, Addai,[22] one of the Seventy.[23] The 14th-century writer Nicephorus Callistus makes Jude the bridegroom at the wedding at Cana. The legend reports that St. Jude was born into a Jewish family in Paneas, a town in Galilee later rebuilt by the Romans and renamed Caesarea Philippi.


According to tradition, Saint Jude suffered martyrdom about 65 AD in Beirut, in the Roman province of Syria, together with the apostle Simon the Zealot, with whom he is usually connected. The axe that he is often shown holding in pictures symbolizes the way in which he was killed.[28] Their acts and martyrdom were recorded in an Acts of Simon and Jude that was among the collection of passions and legends traditionally associated with the legendary Abdias, bishop of Babylon, and said to have been translated into Latin by his disciple Tropaeus Africanus, according to the Golden Legend account of the saints.


Most holy Apostle, Saint Jude Thaddeus, friend of Jesus, I place myself in your care at this difficult time. Help me know that I need not face my troubles alone. Please join me in my need, asking God to send me: consolation in my sorrow, courage in my fear, and healing in the midst of my suffering. Ask our loving Lord to fill me with the grace to accept whatever may lie ahead for me and my loved ones, and to strengthen my faith in God’s healing powers. Thank you, Saint Jude Thaddeus, for the promise of hope you hold out to all who believe, and inspire me to give this gift of hope to others as it has been given to me.

V. Saint Jude, Apostle of Hope
R. Pray for us!


  1. Look at where previous plans have failed
    1. Poppy (4) is having troubles with Violet (2).  She wanted to play with all the ponies. Violet wanted a pony.  After several minutes of intense struggles, Poppy decided that hitting Violet would accomplish her goal of getting to play with the ponies….
    2. See this in children all the time.  They had a plan to get what they thought they wanted, but it didn’t work out.  Could be sugary food, desire for toys, attention from mom and dad.
    3. Same for us
      1. Take another job in order to get more money for freedom
      2. Go buy a gym membership so I can eat more food while still losing weight
      3. Buy all the pressure cook hardware to cook dry beans and save money
      4. Buy a brand new care in order to save money
      5. Carpool with someone unreliable to save time.
    4. My biggest successes have usually come from me saying “Lord, whatever you want, let it be done.”
    5. It took me over 30 years to learn that my plans are broken.
  2. Acknowledge my own fallen desires
    1. To judge a plan, you must first assess the intent.
    2. Most of the time, my intent is to please myself.
    3. Currently trying to get a UTV, for “family” and for “work.”  At first wanted to spend money to get one.
    4. C.S. Lewis “It would seem that Our Lord finds our desires not too strong, but too weak. We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased.”
    5. Romans 7:15-20 I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate. 16 Now if I do what I do not want, I agree that the law is good. 17 But in fact it is no longer I that do it, but sin that dwells within me. 18 For I know that nothing good dwells within me, that is, in my flesh. I can will what is right, but I cannot do it. 19 For I do not do the good I want, but the evil I do not want is what I do. 20 Now if I do what I do not want, it is no longer I that do it, but sin that dwells within me.
  3. Hope for God’s plan
    1. God, infinitely perfect and blessed in himself, in a plan of sheer goodness freely created man to make him share in his own blessed life. In the fullness of time, God the Father sent his Son as Redeemer and Savior of mankind, fallen into sin, thus calling all into his Church and, through the work of the Holy Spirit, making them adopted children and heirs of his eternal happiness.
      CCC #1 – 25
    2. Jeremiah Context:
    3. Jeremiah 29: 10-14 For thus says the Lord: Only when Babylon’s seventy years are completed will I visit you, and I will fulfill to you my promise and bring you back to this place. 11 For surely I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord, plans for your welfare and not for harm, to give you a future with hope. 12 Then when you call upon me and come and pray to me, I will hear you. 13 When you search for me, you will find me; if you seek me with all your heart, 14 I will let you find me, says the Lord, and I will restore your fortunes and gather you from all the nations and all the places where I have driven you, says the Lord, and I will bring you back to the place from which I sent you into exile.
    4. hebrews 12: 6 for the Lord disciplines those whom he loves,
         and chastises every child whom he accepts.  (Again quoting Proverbs)
    5. The totality of the Christian faith is based upon two truths: There is a God, and He wants good things for us.  If either of these were in doubt, it would be stupid to be Christian. Who would want to partake in a religion that said an all-powerful God was out to get you??
  4. Live day by day
    1. Best summed up in the words of our lord
    2. Matthew 6:25-34 “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink,[a] or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? 26 Look at the birds of the air; they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? 27 And can any of you by worrying add a single hour to your span of life?[b] 28 And why do you worry about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they neither toil nor spin, 29 yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not clothed like one of these. 30 But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which is alive today and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? 31 Therefore do not worry, saying, ‘What will we eat?’ or ‘What will we drink?’ or ‘What will we wear?’ 32 For it is the Gentiles who strive for all these things; and indeed your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. 33 But strive first for the kingdom of God[c] and his[d] righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.
    3. But how do you do it?  “Surrender” “Abandonment.”
    4. This is not an invitation to stop working and just sit around drinking all day.  We must work. This is an exhortation to not be anxious
    5. Faith means believing in something that you do NOT see.  If it was already there, it wouldn’t need faith.
    6. Ask God for this gift of faith.  Then practice getting yourself, and your anxiety, out of the way.


  1. Look at where previous plans have failed
  2. Acknowledge my own fallen desires
  3. Hope for God’s plan
  4. Live day by day


“We have to let go of our plans if we are to become the person we are meant to be.”

Joseph Campbell

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