Catholic Commute S01E51 6 Steps to find meaningful Rest

Real rest isn't laziness, it's essential

In the previous episode I discussed the importance of sleep.  In this episode, I discuss the other side of rest.  When God rested on the seventh day, he wasn’t sleeping.  What type of rest are we supposed to find?  I suggest that this is something deeper – and it requires a connection with God.  Modern science agrees with our need for rest; it can improve the rest of our lives.

In this episode I give 6 steps to finding meaningful rest.  Real rest isn’t just watching 2 hours of TV before bed – often that can actually be draining.  Real rest leaves us with more energy and more enthusiasm for life.  It’s an essential to living life to the fullest.  I tell the story of my discovery of real rest while hunting.

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Episode 51: 6 Steps to find meaningful Rest


Exodus 20: 8-11 (Third Commandment): Remember the sabbath day, and keep it holy. 9 Six days you shall labor and do all your work. 10 But the seventh day is a sabbath to the Lord your God; you shall not do any work—you, your son or your daughter, your male or female slave, your livestock, or the alien resident in your towns. 11 For in six days the Lord made heaven and earth, the sea, and all that is in them, but rested the seventh day; therefore the Lord blessed the sabbath day and consecrated it.


What is “rest?”

  • Stillness – just being. Psalm 46:10 “Be still, and know that I am God!”
  • Story of first hunting trip
  • Rest is something that actually adds energy and enthusiasm to life
  • It is not late-night TV binge watching that you regret the next day.


  1. Learn what you find restful
    1. St. Thomas Aquinas: It is requisite for the relaxation of the mind that we make use, from time to time, of playful deeds and jokes.
    2. For some people it’s gardening
    3. For some people it can be a quiet bath
    4. For some people it’s a poker night
    5. For me, it is solitude in nature – especially hunting.
  2. Be prepared to sacrifice
    1. The bigger the request, the greater the sacrifice.
    2. Especially if you already regularly ask for a lot of solo time, your wife may be hesitant to give you that time.
    3. Offer to pick up some extra chores and duties
    4. Explain why this time will be different from Saturday football, and give up a few of those Saturday football games
    5. Spend extra time with her before going
    6. Treat her to something special before/after your time.
    7. Leviticus 25 4-5: but in the seventh year there shall be a sabbath of complete rest for the land, a sabbath for the Lord: you shall not sow your field or prune your vineyard. 5 You shall not reap the aftergrowth of your harvest or gather the grapes of your unpruned vine: it shall be a year of complete rest for the land.
  3. Plan and schedule
    1. Find the right place
    2. Find the right people
    3. Commit it to a calendar that both you and those important to you can see
    4. Treat it like an actual commitment.
  4. Allow yourself to relax
    1. Relax your body
    2. Let go of every other obligation
    3. Quiet your thoughts
    4. Be present
    5. “Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is relax.” –Mark Black
    6. 1 Peter 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on him, because he cares for you.
  5. Dedicate the time to God
    1. Matthew 11:28-29 28 “Come to me, all you that are weary and are carrying heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me; for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.
    2. Philippians 4: 6-7 Do not worry about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. 7 And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
    3. 1 John 3:18-9 -Little children, let us love, not in word or speech, but in truth and action.   And by this we will know that we are from the truth and will reassure our hearts before him
    4. Practical: Pray whatever pray you find comforting during this time.
    5. Be wary of making it too intentional – just give it to God for His glory and purpose
    6. Alt: Dedicate your prayers to mother mary and let her take care of it.
  6. Capture what you learn – bring it with you
    1. Share the peace with others
    2. Journal and read that journal later
    3. Create a place of rest deep inside of you that you can later return too
    4. Story of the huge tree in field at Wildwood in childhood.


Psalm 131: 2-3 But I have calmed and quieted my soul,
   like a weaned child with its mother;
   my soul is like the weaned child that is with me.[a]
3 O Israel, hope in the Lord
   from this time on and forevermore.

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