Catholic Commute S01E37 6 Tips to dealing with Change

Making the right change without going crazy

Change is hard, especially sometimes for us men.  Still, God calls us to live our lives and that means change. Making the wrong change can often be worse than making no change – so how do we know what to do?

Recently I’ve gone through a major change in my life as I’ve changed professions, and moved into a much more risky scenario.  Along the way I had to try to figure out what was the right thing to do, am I doing what I want or what God wants?

In this episode I give you the tips that were helpful for me to make this choice.  Hopefully they will help you to make the best choices you can when you hit your moments of change.

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Episode 37: 6 Tips for dealing with change

 

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  1. Do not be afraid
    1. Change is scary!
    2. Matthew 6: 25-34 25 “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you Add Newwill eat or what you will drink,[j] or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? 26 Look at the birds of the air; they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? 27 And can any of you by worrying add a single hour to your span of life?[k] 28 And why do you worry about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they neither toil nor spin, 29 yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not clothed like one of these. 30 But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which is alive today and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? 31 Therefore do not worry, saying, ‘What will we eat?’ or ‘What will we drink?’ or ‘What will we wear?’ 32 For it is the Gentiles who strive for all these things; and indeed your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. 33 But strive first for the kingdom of God[l] and his[m] righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.

      34 “So do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring worries of its own. Today’s trouble is enough for today.
    3. 1 Corinthian 10: 13 No testing has overtaken you that is not common to everyone. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tested beyond your strength, but with the testing he will also provide the way out so that you may be able to endure it.
  2. Seek God’s will
    1. Luke 22:42 “Father, if you are willing, remove this cup from me; yet, not my will but yours be done.”
  3. Prayer and Fasting
    1. Matthew 17:21 – cast out by prayer and fasting
    2. Practical benefits of fasting
    3. The success of your morning meditation will largely depend on what you have eaten the night before.
      St. Alphonusus Liguori (1696-1787 A.D.)
    4. Take even bread with moderation, lest an overloaded stomach make you weary of prayer.
      St. Bernard of Clairvaux (1090-1153 A.D.)
    5. One ought to arise from a meal able to apply oneself to prayer and study.
      St. Jerome (342-420 A.D.)
  4. Read the Bible
    1. Bible is LIVING word of God, contains deep truth
    2. Matthew 4 – story of Jesus tempted in desert
    3. If you want to hear Him speak, then listen
    4. Meant to be proclaimed aloud
    5. Bible is a weapon
    6. Ephesians 6:10-17, especially vs 17 10 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his power. 11 Put on the whole armor of God, so that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. 12 For our[b] struggle is not against enemies of blood and flesh, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers of this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places. 13 Therefore take up the whole armor of God, so that you may be able to withstand on that evil day, and having done everything, to stand firm. 14 Stand therefore, and fasten the belt of truth around your waist, and put on the breastplate of righteousness. 15 As shoes for your feet put on whatever will make you ready to proclaim the gospel of peace. 16 With all of these,[c] take the shield of faith, with which you will be able to quench all the flaming arrows of the evil one. 17 Take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.
  5. Write out your options
    1. We humans are forgetful.  Seeing things written down makes them stronger
    2. No matter what type of thinker you are, it helps to put it all down
    3. Gives you a reference for later on about why you chose what you chose
    4. Best if done in adoration
    5. Share them carefully, more below
  6. Seek counsel from others, but carefully
    1. Proverbs 12: 15 Fools think their own way is right,
         but the wise listen to advice.
    2. Many others can be jealous or fearful
    3. Sirach 37:1-6 Every friend says, “I too am a friend”;
         but some friends are friends only in name.
      2 Is it not a sorrow like that for death itself
         when a dear friend turns into an enemy?
      3 O inclination to evil, why were you formed
         to cover the land with deceit?
      4 Some companions rejoice in the happiness of a friend,
         but in time of trouble they are against him.
      5 Some companions help a friend for their stomachs’ sake,
         yet in battle they will carry his shield.
      6 Do not forget a friend during the battle,[a]
         and do not be unmindful of him when you distribute your spoils.
    4. It’s a subtle and subconscious thing, often not even intentional
    5. No prophet is ever welcomed in his hometown.
    6. Luke 4:22-28 All spoke well of him and were amazed at the gracious words that came from his mouth. They said, “Is not this Joseph’s son?” 23 He said to them, “Doubtless you will quote to me this proverb, ‘Doctor, cure yourself!’ And you will say, ‘Do here also in your hometown the things that we have heard you did at Capernaum.’” 24 And he said, “Truly I tell you, no prophet is accepted in the prophet’s hometown. 25 But the truth is, there were many widows in Israel in the time of Elijah, when the heaven was shut up three years and six months, and there was a severe famine over all the land; 26 yet Elijah was sent to none of them except to a widow at Zarephath in Sidon. 27 There were also many lepers[d] in Israel in the time of the prophet Elisha, and none of them was cleansed except Naaman the Syrian.” 28 When they heard this, all in the synagogue were filled with rage.

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