Catholic Commute S02E36 Life Before Death Part 2

Pain tells us that we are alive!

Words matter, because our words a crystalization of our thoughts. The words and ideas we choose to embrace define who we become. Are we to be people who value life and things that are active, lively, and life-focused? Or instead are we to be people who drift in the current of things that are dead and dying. Our culture is dying in many ways. Do you want to float along with it?

In this episode I discuss 5 practical ways that every Christian, every Catholic can really choose to embrace being a people of Life. Life involves risk, involves pain. It’s not easy, but the alternative is worse! Choose life, become active and fight for what is living. It’s the only good way to live.

Either get busy living, or get busy dying!

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Continue with St. Genesius


Any dead thing can float with the current, only something alive can swim against it.


1997 movie G.I. Jane

Master Chief John Urgayle:

Pain is your friend, your ally, it will tell you when you are seriously injured, it will keep you awake and angry, and remind you to finish the job and get the hell home. But you know the best thing about pain?


Lt. Jordan O’Neil:

Don’t know!


Master Chief John Urgayle:

It lets you know you’re not dead yet!


  1. Relationships – thriving and alive vs dead
    1. Intimacy
    2. Hurts sometimes
    3. “If they only knew the real me”
    4. Provide meaning
  2. Sexuality – porn vs working through the love with wife
    1. No risk with porn
    2. Our wives can hurt us, especially in the bedroom
    3. No real connection with porn – the reverse actually
    4. What we really want is to be chosen, accepted, and cherished.
  3. Alcohol – drinking to numb vs. healthy social drinking
    1. I’m sure we’ve all done this from time to time
    2. The more frequent we try to numb, the more dangerous it gets
    3. An unfaced problem only gets worse
    4. Literally a form of death, both immediate and future
  4. Spending time – true rest and regeneration vs. drifting and wasting away
    1. Screwtape Letters: And now for your blunders. On your own showing you first of all allowed the patient to read a book he really enjoyed, because he enjoyed it and not in order to make clever remarks about it to his new friends. In the second place, you allowed him to walk down to the old mill and have tea there—a walk through country he really likes, and taken alone. In other words you allowed him two real positive Pleasures. Were you so ignorant as not to see the danger of this? The characteristic of Pains and Pleasures is that they are unmistakably real, and therefore, as far as they go, give the man who feels them a touchstone of reality…you were trying to damn your patient by the World, that is by palming off vanity, bustle, irony, and expensive tedium as pleasures. How can you have failed to see that a real pleasure was the last thing you ought to have let him meet? Didn’t you foresee that it would just kill by contrast all the trumpery which you have been so laboriously teaching him to value? And that the sort of pleasure which the book and the walk gave him was the most dangerous of all? That it would peel off from his sensibility the kind of crust you have been forming on it, and make him feel that he was coming home, recovering himself? As a preliminary to detaching him from the Enemy, you wanted to detach him from himself, and had made some progress in doing so. Now, all that is undone.
    2. Shallow activities are a form of death. Life is found in the risk, in the reality. Be wary, sometimes it rains there. Sometimes there is lightning. But there are also sunrises.
  5. Be Present in the Moment
    1. How often do we try to have conversations while the TV is on? Or while playing with our phone? Are we really living and thriving in those moments?
    2. The distractions are endless. They, like a drifting current, will never end.
    3. Put them down and away!
    4. Risk the rejection you can only find by being truly present and vulnerable with people.


  1. Relationships – thriving and alive vs dead
  2. Sexuality – porn vs working through the love with wife
  3. Alcohol – drinking to numb vs. healthy social drinking
  4. Spending time – true rest and regeneration vs. drifting and wasting away
  5. Be Present in the Moment


In my life, I’ve lived, I’ve loved, I’ve lost, I’ve missed, I’ve hurt, I’ve trusted, I’ve made mistakes, but most of all, I’ve learned.

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