Catholic Commute S01E11 5 Reasons why Self Discipline Matters

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Self discipline is one of the hardest traits to grow.  We are regularly encouraged that so many things really don’t matter.  It’s “ok” to give in to what we want.  Why does it really matter anyways?

Well, the truth is that building discipline is actually one of the first steps to any significant achievement.  Good things come to those who work hard.  This is true at work, at home with wife and kids, and in your relationship with God.  Whatever it is that you want to improve, it probably will take some better discipline to make it there.

Unfortunately, however, discipline isn’t easy to come by.  There’s a reason why it’s relatively rare – it’s hard!  I don’t want to give up my pleasure and enjoyment.  I want to do what I want to do!

In this episode I give you not only why discipline is so important, I also give you several practical tips to start working your own self discipline.  I believe you’ll find it helpful!

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5 reasons Why Discipline Matters

 

“Never believe a promise from a man or woman who has no discipline. They have broken a thousand promises to themselves, and they break their promise for you.” – Matthew Kelly

 

We all have good self discipline in some areas and lousy self discipline in other areas.  Why does it really matter?

  1. Self Discipline is the best predictor of success.
    1. Childhood book – Executive function
    2. Even more true for adults
    3. When you don’t make the responsible choice, you make the next responsible choice even harder – digging oneself deeper into debt.
    4. True for all aspects of life that we want to improve.
  2. Self discipline changes how others perceive us.
    1. People do not deeply respect a man who cannot control himself, yet people do respect a man who struggles to gain that.
    2. We are all broken – even though we forget that sometimes about others.  When we see another who rather than hiding their brokenness, directly confronts it to improve, that makes a deep and lasting impression.
    3. You will make more progress at work through humble acknowledgement of failure and an open self assessment of how you could have done better than by thin excuses.
  3. Improving our self discipline in one area affects all the others
    1. Let’s say that you are hopelessly addicted to something, choose porn.  If that one seems to impossible to tackle directly, start by training yourself in discipline in another area.  e.g. food.
    2. Training carries benefits
    3. Successes give rise to more successes
    4. No discipline is ever truly wasted.
  4. Our self discipline enables others to succeed as well.
    1. We are a role model for others around us
    2. Especially as husbands and doubly-so as fathers
    3. We define what success is
    4. You are the average of your 5 closest friends – that works two ways.  It also gives you the power to raise up 5 other people a little bit.
  5. It defines our legacy
    1. What we are remembered for at the end of life is now our lavish personal excesses.  No one remembers the size of the mansion of Bill Gates. We remember what he did for the world, and how he spent his wealth to better the world.
    2. It defines our character legacy as well.  As discussed in last episode – do you want to be a man remembered as self-controlled and gentle?
    3. Meek
    4. One thing that Christendom builds is the idea that great material success does not prevent great moral strength.  We all need to build that to testify to the world.

 

4 steps to improve your self discipline

  1. Crystalize your vision
    1. You need to be clear about what your fighting for
    2. Brian Johnson: lack of self control often indicates lack of compelling vision
  2. Start with little wins
    1. Some dragons are too big to attack until you’ve trained
    2. Momentum is huge
  3. Choose areas that will make a noticeable improvement
    1. This will encourage you and really help make that vision compelling
    2. This will rally others to encourage you as well
  4. Get an accountability partner
    1. It needs to be someone who will encourage you to succeed, not someone who will sympathize with how hard it is.
    2. It needs to be someone with the mindset of an army drill sergeant.  It isn’t personal. This may not be your wife.

 

5 reasons Why Discipline Matters

  1. Self Discipline is the best predictor of success.
  2. Self discipline changes how others perceive us.
  3. Improving our self discipline in one area affects all the others
  4. Our self discipline enables others to succeed as well.
  5. It defines our legacy

 

4 steps to improve your self discipline

  1. Crystalize your vision
  2. Start with little wins
  3. Choose areas that will make a noticeable improvement
  4. Get an accountability partner

 

Matthew Kelly: “If you give your body a choice, it will always take the easy way out. Your body lies. It tells you it cannot when it can.”

 

Next week we talk about the necessary partner to good discipline: True Freedom

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